Will it ever happen?

[nebraska23]

Hello.

I've been thinking about this probably too much.

Here's my story.

I met my soon-to-be husband (July 18th, 2008) on July 18th, 2000. I lost my virginity at 16 and he did as well. We used condoms and I started on the pill a few months after losing my virginity. After being together for two years, we stopped using condoms. A little while after that, I stopped using the Pill.

Since the age of 18, he has been ejaculating inside of me sometimes 1-3 times a week. I am 23 now, almost 24.

Not being on the pill, not using condoms, and having a half sister with endometriosis that almost died giving birth to her 2 lb daughter and having a grandma on my dad's side with ovarian cancer, should I finally get checked out to see if it's me?

Could it be him?

I am not a drug user and neither is he. I used to drink pretty hard when I was 21-22 but that's about the extent of any ill behavior. My periods generally come and go as they please and last for three days (four at the most) and are extremely heavy. It seems the date of getting my period ends up 3-5 days before I expect it.

I've always been stubborn about seeing the doctor because I am so afraid of knowing the truth. I will see the doctor very soon but I just wanted to see if any of you had any advice or the same dilemma.

Is this normal or not? Please let me know. I just wanted to get this out in between wedding planning and school work.

[Nikkihope]

I had the same problem and when I was 20 my doctor sent me to see a fertility specialist. They said I was ovulating and all was good and then put me on fertility meds Clomid for 6 months. Nothing was happening then finally my specialist sent me to have a minor surgery called a Laprascopy its where they make a little incinsion and put a camera inside and flush dye through your tubes to make sure they are flowing good. Well it turns out I had a little blockage which they fixed while doing the Lapracopy. I then fell pregnant 1month after the surgery and miscarried at 6 weeks. Then I got pregnant again immediately after and had another miscarriage at 11weeks. I then decided to give my body a couple months to heal and tried again and I am now 8 weeks pregnant and everything is going well. So I really do suggest seeing a doctor because if I hadn't I would still be wondering is it him? is it me? Can I conceive? Those questions are stressfull when just lingering so go see a doctor and get referred to a fertility specialist then take the steps from there. Good luck I will keep you in my prayers and I'm sending you some sticky baby dust!!!!

~Nikki~

[star101]

Hi Nebraska, welcome to the forum

I think you shouldnt delay going to the doctor any longer. You have your age n your side which is a good thing if there are any fertility issues. It may justbe that youre having sex at the wrong time- have you tried ovulation prediction tests?

There may well be male factor infertility issues but you wont know until you take the first steps tothe doctor.

Good luck and let us know how you get on

[Marsha85]

Hey Nebraska,
I'm Marsha and i am 22 nearly 23 and went through almost exactly what you are going through now only last month.

I went to the Doc after much nagging from my Husband and they found a cyst when they did the ultrasound. that is the first step they do then if they find anything they will do a lap op. they also take bloods to check you hormone levelds and make sure your thyroid and all that is functioning ok. it's not that scary the doc's explain everything and if you don't feel comfertable with that doc see another. you have to feel comfortable with them or you just don't beleive them.

Have any more questions i will be happy to answer for you.

Oh yeah and by the way after they did the lap op they put me on clomid which is a slight hormon drug that helps regulate your ovulation and help you to ovulate.
Do you BBT?

Take care
marsha

[Shannon]

Hi there. I have severe endo, not dianosed until I was 28 years old, and I agree with everyone else here, GO see the doc. I didn't go because of trying to have a baby, I just wanted to be out of pain, so the fact that I had endo so bad didn't really hit me at the time, but 6 years later I am so angry that docs didn't do anything sooner. It was a shock to hear that I would have a 40% chance of ever having a baby, but we were just not prepared at that time. Now I see I was in denial and wasted PRECIOUS time.

I have a sister who had a Lap before me and they found she had PCOS and Endo, and it does run in families, so if you have the slightest hint of wonder you should insist on being checked out. Took her 5 years to get preg with twins.

Please go get checked out....